Wednesday, April 6, 2011

Honesty in relationships

6 April 2011

Proverbs 15:17-18 Better is a dinner of herbs where love is than a fatted ox and hatred with it. A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger quiets contention.

One of the worse things a person can do when upset is to explain why you are upset to people other than the person you are upset with. All this does is draw in a third party who now has to take sides and because of that you need to justify yourself to them further alienating the person you are upset with. We do this however because we always need to be the aggrieved party, we do not see the fault in us. The sad part is that many people have gone through life this way and do not know how to communicate or speak the truth without putting a tale on the truth.

Shedding tears and crying on someone else’s shoulder will just complicate the problem, if you have a problem go and speak honestly to the person concerned, stop avoiding. Yet there are those people who just keep repeating this behaviour, never able to be in a relationship without the tension of gossip and manipulating the attention to focus on themselves. These are simply people it is best to avoid as they will always bring disunity, they never contribute to the food on the table and always complain in the restaurant even when they are your guest.

We need to be careful how we select our friends as our friends tell others who we are, the company we keep needs to be able to uplift us and help us to deeper spiritual relationship with Jesus Christ. Pub friends seldom become Christian friends, sadly however there are few places we will be able to meet people, so life become lonely. Blessed is the man who loves the wife of his youth for this is God’s way of dealing with loneliness.

Be encouraged today to speak the truth honestly.

David

Point to ponder: Friends are usually like minded.

Question to consider: Are you always the aggrieved party?

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